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Module 3 of 6 · about 10 minutes

Structure Map

Structure is why some vows land and others wander. You only need five moves, in order.

Here's the shape that works almost every time:

1. An opening line that grounds the room.

2. Who they are to you — one or two specific truths.

3. A story or a moment — the proof.

4. The promises — three to five, concrete.

5. A closing line — short, warm, final.

That's it. If each section is two or three sentences, you land right around 90 seconds spoken. The structure is doing the work so you don't have to hold everything in your head.

The opening line just needs to signal "I'm talking to you now." Something like "I've been trying to write this for four months, and here's what I finally landed on" is better than a quote from a poet neither of you has read.

The closing line should be short enough to say when your voice is shaking. Seven words or fewer is a good target. Say it out loud before you commit to it.

See it in action

Read a real set of vows with short call-outs showing this structure and these promises at work.

Real Example – Annotated

Worksheet

Everything autosaves as you type. Messy notes are perfect — nothing here is shown to anyone.

Plain speech is perfect here.

Pull from your starred lines in Module 2.

One moment only. Three sentences max.

Just gesture at them for now — Module 4 sharpens them.

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